"Doing it for Attention" - A Revelation

I just figured this out, the so-called "victim complex." People call out sexual assault survivors (the Cosby cases on my mind here) as being in it for attention. Or sexual harassment victims, or people just bringing gender into the conversation. People who "make everything about race" are told they are trying to get… » 12/17/14 10:21am Wednesday 10:21am

Michel Martin hosted On Point today!

Just an FYI if anyone wants to catch the podcast later. I was like IT'S HER, IT'S HER! I only caught the latter half of the show but it was about estate planning - specific to the black community, but it was broad too. I somewhat miss her show, Tell Me More - but I specifically just miss her interview style. She is… » 12/16/14 12:02pm Tuesday 12:02pm

It's the little things (sexism)

Had coffee with a friend - she is cohabitating with her boyfriend. We talked about cohabitation. My SO had somewhat of a housework learning curve but he is willing and able (more willing than me, for sure). I told her about how when we went to visit my in-laws, they mocked him and couldn't believe he was remotely… » 12/11/14 8:36pm 12/11/14 8:36pm

What's Your Favorite Charity?

I thought I'd share - my cousins and I always donate to charity in lieu of getting gifts, and this year is my turn to orchestrate. We will be donating to Raintree House, a charity local to me that provides therapy, tutoring, activities, and sometimes shelter to abused and neglected teenage girls. Where are you… » 12/11/14 1:48pm 12/11/14 1:48pm

I Never Learn  (alt. title: who is crafting for xmas?)

Every year I get it in my head I need to MAKE all my Christmas presents, and starting about now I go into freak out mode. It's not about money because by the time you count supplies and shipping and time it costs the same. I am professionally good at making things - it's only a cheap out if we think my time and… » 12/10/14 11:53pm 12/10/14 11:53pm

Merry Christmas! Here's Anal Sex!

A friend of mine told me she is giving her husband anal for Christmas (allowing him to put his penis in her anus, not some other kind of anal play). At first, I thought it was great. I mean, who hasn't given "back rub" coupons to someone at some point? I thought about how my SO and I have discussed anal but not gone… » 12/09/14 7:10pm 12/09/14 7:10pm

Fridays are a Shit Show (alt title: favorite song right NOW)

In past jobs, on Fridays, everyone would be a little chill, just hanging out, trying to get out a few minutes early. At my job, Fridays are sudden deadlines, getting prepared for the weekend (we run weekend classes for adults), and everyone I've ever met calling me as if this Friday is different from every other… » 12/05/14 4:06pm 12/05/14 4:06pm

What are you getting the SO's in your life for gifts?

I need ideas, guys. My fiancé is ridiculously difficult to buy for, AND his birthday is right after Christmas so I have to have both gifts figured out at the same time. Due to childhood bad feelings about combo presents and getting overlooked for his birthday, I always try to make it special and make sure the gifts… » 12/04/14 10:09pm 12/04/14 10:09pm

Eric Garner's Widow Speaks

She, of course, does not accept Pantaleo's apology. I got upset when she spoke at the end about who will play Santa for their grandchildren; how she's looking for a way to feed her children. I wonder if anyone knows if we can donate to them? I get so frustrated at these things and I just want to throw money somewhere… » 12/03/14 11:19pm 12/03/14 11:19pm

Why I love my SO, reason #456,767,996

A coworker and I were discussing how we don't shave our legs today, and she mentioned that she always shaves them if she's about to go on a date, but literally, LITERALLY never any other time (she is single). I have been pleasantly in a relationship for 6 years now and while I shave sometimes, I have not given many… » 12/03/14 9:01pm 12/03/14 9:01pm

A Master of Productivity

What is your secret to productivity (although chances are all you people are at work screwing around on GT so I probably won't get any good answers ;-P )? I hit panic mode about a deadline last night - because there was an emergency that bumped something to the top of my list and screwed up my whole day. I tried to… » 12/02/14 12:14pm 12/02/14 12:14pm